Why Some Things And Not Others?

Being a person who has suffered from an obsessive compulsive behavior, I can truly tell you that I have no ideas where this comes from and why I get this way for certain things and not others. That’s what makes no sense at all. Why do I get upset with how my closet is arranged but couldn’t care less about how my towels look? Why do I get upset about things not being in their “spot” but don’t care enough that the bed isn’t made every morning? Why do certain things bother me but others don’t? It would be nice to why so I could maybe fight against. But usually I won’t know what will bother me until I see and there are times when the things that bother me change, today I can’t stand that the dishes are cleaned and put away, tomorrow it won’t bother me but something else will.

So why does this happen? It could be control thing, that I need to feel in control and when I have things organized and straighten out then I have control of the situation. Or it could be that I feel my life is out of control and keeping the other things in my life will help keep things in order. But that could all be to scientific to be anything to put stock into. I believe that people just have little quirks and each of us deals with it in different ways, which is why humans are so amazing. It is funny to meas well because we make fun of other people for their little quirks but take our own super serious. My husband gets so annoyed with me about all of the things that I need to keep in place but doesn’t realize that he has is own things that have to be just so.

When I finally realized this, it made my life so much better. I stopped trying to fight it and just went with it. It makes me much happier to just be me and not worry about it so much. If the shoes that are in the front hall bother me and would make me happier to not see them there than I will surely put them in the closet. It only takes a minute to walk to the closet, so why wouldn’t I? It’s the little things in life that mean the most, so if it makes me happy to have a clean, organized home then why wouldn’t I keep it that way? If that makes me OCD then so be it, I can live with that. I try not to push this on others because I know that nobody but me cares about the same things that I do, my husband who is wonderful, is not an clean freak like me but he tries to get his stuff put away and I love him for that so when I doesn’t I never get upset because he tries and that is enough.

Thanks everyone for reading!

Cindy

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Books

So you may find it hard to believe that you can be OCD with books, but I’ll tell you that you sure can be OCD with books. I am. Honestly, you can pretty much be OCD with just about anything, it just depends on each person and their personality, with me it’s things being in their place. Now that “place” may not be the normal spot where that thing goes but it is where I want to keep so that “place” has become that things spot. With books, I do not like to lend them to other people, even though that person is my mom who loves reading to or to my best friend, both I would trust with my life but just not with my books.

If I find a new author that I want to read I will go on their website to view all the books that they have written and I will create a list of the order of the books and I will read them in the order that the author wrote them. Nothing drives me more crazy than reading books out of order, especially a series of books. I did that once and I was so annoyed when I found out that I read the last book in a three books series. I vowed to myself that I would never do that again. So now I research and make a list that way that will never happen again.

I also prefer to read paperback books as opposed to hard covers because for one, they take up less space on my bookshelf, second they are much easier to travel with and I always take a book with me no matter where I go or for how long I am gone for. Paperbacks fit better in my purse. Third, they are cheaper and that is a big deal when you read as many books as I do. In a good week I can read three books but the weeks that I am busier I can get about one and half, yes I count being halfway through a book.But there have been occasions where I have had to buy a hard cover, if I am reading a series and I have caught up with the author and the newest one hasn’t been released yet, then I have no choice but to get a hard cover.

This drives me crazy too because then the books don’t match, up until that point all my books in that series are paperback but then the new one and everyone after that will be hard cover. So what do I do? Do I wait until the newest ones come out in paperback and buy them again? Or do I find the older ones in hardcover and buy those? I usually wait until they come out in paperback because if I am going to buy a book twice I going to buy the cheaper version. Once I get the paperback I have to read it so it looks read like all of the others and I will just donate the hardcover to the library, a book fair or the Salvation Army, that way the book will not be wasted.

The crazy dilemma’s I create for myself, such is my life.

Thanks for sticking around!

Cindy

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Strangers In Your Home

I can get a little antsy when I have to have people in my house. There is a check list for things that need to be done before that person comes over and a check list of things that need to be done after that person leaves. While they are in my house I try my hardest to act normal and pretend that everything is great while they are here. I bring this up because my husband and I are revamping our bathroom and we needed a plumber to come out and check out our plumbing situation. We found a good local Michigan company to come out and help us. My husband searched online to read all the reviews and we are pretty confident we found a good company. We need this guy to make sure everything is good before we can move forward, we own a old home and just wanted to make sure all was good before we started to spend money on new things.

Our master bathroom is already torn up and we currently are not using it, and I know that when you upgrade your house things will get messy and I know that the people that come and work on your home are used to seeing houses in total disarray but that does not stop me from making sure that everything is organized and put away. I don’t want someone, anyone, coming over to my house and have it been completely messy looking. So before our plumbing came over I cleaned the entire house even though he would only be going straight the bathroom, which I cleaned up as well. I organized the chaos that was our bathroom, I had everything cleared out that didn’t need to be in there when he was there and I stacked up and put away everything that still needed to stay but would be out of his way. He stayed for about half the day working and making sure our stuff was up to par.

When he left, he left a mess, which is fine he worked hard and I’m pretty sure that the majority of people wouldn’t consider what he left behind a mess at all. But that’s them and this is me, so once again I cleaned and organized the bathroom and put everything in it’s proper place so when we go back in there everything is where it needs to be to start the day. Then I cleaned the house again. I have probably cleaned the house more since we started this project than I have in the passed year. It just gets so dusty and cluttered because we are moving things here, there and anyway there is a spot for them and it is driving me nuts. I cannot wait to be done. I do a good job keeping our house in order but it is proving to be most difficult right now because our house is torn up but not really just our bathroom which is spilling into our bedroom which is spilling into the rest of the house. But soon it will be done and things will be back to normal until we start to upgrade something else!

Thanks for reading,

Cindy

Just A Little Crazy

I don’t feel like I have OCD completely, I know that I have some control over it. What drives me crazy are things that are not even or have some sort of not being in order. I have taken those picture quizzes that ask “How OCD Are You?” and I find that most of those pictures give me some sort of anxiety. Like a picture of all blue M&Ms with one red one in the mix drives me nuts. It’s like why the one red? Why not just put all blue? Why the one red? Things that are out of order or things that are not lined up properly make me nuts but I can usually control it to where I will only make sure that the things that are mine are perfect, I will not straighten or move things that do not belong to me. I think that says something important.

I feel bad for my husband Jake, he suffers with this everyday, not because he has OCD but because I sort of do. He gets blamed for things when they are not where they should be. Even though the majority of the time it is not his fault, I still blame him because there is no way that I would have done that, right? Well, I can also be forgetful so usually it is me that forgets to put things back but sometimes it is him, so he gets blamed most of the time. He response when I confront him about such things is to “Yes, I moved it just to irritate you”, which makes me realize that I’m blaming him for my OCD. Which isn’t fair to him but I am grateful that he can be a good sport about it.

When we first moved in with each other, we had to share a closet. We moved into a one bedroom apartment. It took some getting used to. I had my closet organized a certain way and I tried to get him to organize his side the same way but he never would so I would move his clothes to where I wanted them. I never got upset when he wouldn’t put things back where I had them, I would just move them back again. I would get annoyed that he wouldn’t keep his clothes in the spot where I thought they should go but I never said anything to him about it because this was my hang up not his and I shouldn’t be making him do things that really are not a big deal. He never went out of his way to put things in the “wrong spot” but he just never paid attention to where his clothes went because in his head it didn’t matter.

So if I wanted him to respect me and my craziness I need to respect the fact that the things that bother me don’t bother him and I can’t make him crazy too by getting mad at him for not putting his clothes back right. What I do is just move them so it makes sense in my head and he respects that and never gets upset that I move his clothes. A good compromise.

Thanks everyone for reading, hope you stick around.

Cindy